CONTACT FOR (EXPECTANT) FATHERS
Natural, self-determined births for pregnant women – and what are the fathers doing in the meantime?
Supra-regional, German and English-speaking support, accompaniment and counseling for men on all aspects of becoming a father, pregnancy, birth, partnership and couple mediation.
Hello and welcome
Nice to have you here
There is a lack of information for men whose partners are planning to give birth at home or alone, and there is a lack of information on how fathers-to-be can support each other within their father’s worlds.
As a pregnant woman, your partner is in a physically and emotionally special situation and this may be new for you if you are an expectant father, or you know it if you are already a father.
Misunderstandings can quickly arise during your wife’s pregnancy and postpartum period; disrespectful arguments can take place and your partner’s withdrawal can lead to speechlessness.
Sound professional counseling and support can enable you to talk to each other again.
Would you like to deepen trust and appreciation for each other? The aim of this offer for the first weeks and months – before or after the birth – is to return to your love relationship.
The aim is also to strengthen you as a man in your active role as a father, regardless of whether you will be present at the birth of your child or not.
What do I need to know as an expectant father, you ask? Do you actually think that men are the guardians of birth? How does your wife see it? Feel free to write to me.
“Courage to fill the gap”
The perfect father does not exist.
The testimonials about pregnancies and births written by fathers and published on this page can enable you to benefit from the experiences and insights of other men.
On this website, fathers can now share their experiences regarding pregnancy and birth – in the comment function of the blogs. There is no right and no wrong; it’s about appreciative exchange for encouragement and inspiration among each other.
Fathers of older children for whom the birth was some time ago can thus advise and accompany men for whom the birth of the child is imminent.
Do you know men who are fathers? Please ask them to send their reports for publication here.
The aim of this offer is:
Manpower for you as a prospective or already experienced father,
Strengthening for us who are birthkeepers.
Support for the whole of society regarding a self-determined, self-responsible birth, at least for the future.
“We need communities whose members invite, encourage and inspire each other to go beyond themselves”.
Please continue to see if the offer of counseling for fathers and the offer of couple mediation appeals to you or write an email.
Offer
Counseling and accompaniment
for men who are becoming fathers or fathers with special issues such as family, partnership, separation, mourning, crises, reconciliation of family and career (one-off or long-term)
Mediation
This is a mediating, impartial process so that you can constructively and concretely develop new foundations for your future relationship. A neutral third party accompanies you in couple mediation.
Support group
Facilitation of a support group on birth stories written by fathers, fathers’ issues in general, e.g. via Telegram
In a counseling session you will be heard as a (future) father, you can open up without reservation and you will be given strategies that can be implemented.
See which offer meets your expectations:
You are a first-time father, click here
You are already a father, click here.
You as a man will soon be a father?
Here you will find birth stories written by fathers.
Do you wonder what your role will be then?
Who has what expectation of me, you think?
In a counseling session with me, you will be given practical strategies with which you can prepare yourself well for the birth of your baby.
We could talk about possible fears regarding pregnancy and birth and you can finally give them free rein. As a father-to-be, I’ll give you the first 15 minutes of conversation free of charge
You want to think about your role as a father-to-be, already feel and reflect what your fatherhood could be like?
A crisis has occurred in your life: Do you want to learn about grief work, away from suffering?
Would you and your partner (!) like to develop sustainable solutions for a harmonious relationship? Then couple mediation is certainly something for both of you.
Just get in touch for a non-binding conversation to get to know each other.
You are already a father?
As a man and father, do you sometimes still think about how the birth of your child went?
Would you like to write down your experiences and feelings in a birth report and send it to me here for publication? Young men / fathers-to-be will thank you for it.
Would you like to feel and understand your role in fatherhood better or reflect on yourself? Then get in touch.
A crisis has occurred in your life: Would you like to learn about grief work, away from suffering? As a father, I give you the first 15 minutes of conversation free of charge.
Would you and your partner (!) like to develop sustainable solutions for a harmonious relationship? Then couple mediation is certainly something for both of you.
Just get in touch for a non-binding conversation to get to know each other. As a gift for you as a father, 15 minutes are free of charge.
Since there is a great need for information and / or counseling and couple mediation, both for expectant and grieving fathers, this offer was created for you, which can be booked primarily by telephone or video conference.
I am a socio-political as well as individual advocate for people regarding self-determined births. You are guaranteed a lot of expertise, communication skills and empathy – towards you and your issues – also through the “Circle of Friends Pregnancy and Birth”. (more: ABOUT us)
I assume that the discussions with me will help you in your role as a father in everyday life. Together we will find practicable strategies for you so that you can …
- You feel very good at the thought of a midwife-assisted home birth or a single birth,
- have the opportunity to exchange information, e.g. if your partner does not want you to be present during the birth,
- feel heartfelt again if you feel burnt out in your role as a father,
- you can talk to your partner again through mediation, towards a harmonious family life.
- perceive your life is worth living, e.g. in the event of a bereavement,
For services rendered, we ask for a donation to the Circle of Friends. We will discuss the amount of the donation on the phone. Approximate value 50,-€/hour.
There is no substitute for telling stories. It seems to have been lost in the western world to write down stories/reports and to let others share in the experience.
So here is what men have experienced about their wives’ pregnancies and births:
Birth reports
Here you will find birth stories written by FATHERS for mutual information, encouragement and support. It is good for both women and men to write everything down; for their own memories, but also for the inspiration of others.
Browse through …
You will discover experiences, events, phenomena, curiosities experienced by men during the birth process.
Please inform male friends, colleagues, neighbors to send me their self-written birth reports HERE.
Birth of my son in Peru
My son C. was born on Sunday, 10.10.1999, in Lima/Peru. My wife is Peruvian and I am German. During the birth in Lima, I as the father could unfortunately not be present in person at the birth, because this was not possible in the “birth house” there…
